Teen boy with his feet hanging out of a car window - Teen boy with his feet hanging out of a car window - Childhood Wounding Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling Childhood Wounding Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling

A Little Known Fact That Could Affect Your Relationship

We all have a past. It's part of the unique story that makes you who you are.  Being overly preoccupied with the past perhaps isn’t helpful; but there are undoubtedly important things from your history which, when worked through, can help you fully experience the present and look forward to enjoying a future filled with rewarding relationships. I often notice with clients how difficult it often is for them to connect with any childhood wounding. Telling the story can feel like a betrayal of a parent, particularly if they identify with difficulties in their parent's story. For example, if the parent was ill, abandoned by a partner, suffered bereavement, or had their own history of trauma. It’s often easy is to connect with and understand the parents’ hurt. But, what this means is leaving the experience of the child (you) out of the story.
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The Mistake Couples Make That Destroys Harmony

Brexit is not only shaping politics; it’s influencing romantic relationships too!  It’s a little under a year ago since that historic vote for the UK to leave the European Union. And as the negotiations get underway, it’s a time of change.  We find ourselves in challenging and uncertain times. For some, this feels liberating and exciting.  At last, it’s possible to imagine the end of an unhealthy relationship and look forward to starting over. Then again for others, nothing could further from the truth.  A security blanket has been pulled from under their feet.  And what was familiar for such a long time, together with their sense identity and belonging are now all at risk. And there it is; difference.
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How Showing Your Partner Appreciation Can Help Improve Your Relationship

What was the first thought you had about your partner this morning? For instance, was it I so feel happy? Wow, I can't' wait to spend the rest of the day with him? I feel safe and secure in this relationship? On the other hand, was it annoyance with the snoring, fed up because they haven't brought you your morning cup of tea...again, cross about his messy pile of clothes on the floor or perhaps irritable following an argument the night before?