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A Holiday Teddy Bear on A Stool - How To Survive Christmas And Reduce Your Christmas Anxiety - Christmas isn't a happy time for everyone. You might feel stamped if you feel a little low without quite understanding why. This post will give you some tips on how to feel less anxious and take care of yourself.

How To Survive Christmas And Reduce Your Christmas Anxiety

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Christmas isn’t fun for everyone.

There are many reasons why you might not be looking forward to it. Read more

Teen boy with his feet hanging out of a car window - Teen boy with his feet hanging out of a car window - Childhood Wounding Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling Childhood Wounding Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling

A Little Known Fact That Could Affect Your Relationship

 

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We all have a past. It’s part of the unique story that makes you who you are. 

Being overly preoccupied with the past perhaps isn’t helpful; but there are undoubtedly important things from your history which, when worked through, can help you fully experience the present and look forward to enjoying a future filled with rewarding relationships.

I often notice with clients how difficult it often is for them to connect with any childhood wounding.

Telling the story can feel like a betrayal of a parent, particularly if they identify with difficulties in their parent’s story. For example, if the parent was ill, abandoned by a partner, suffered bereavement, or had their own history of trauma. It’s often easy is to connect with and understand the parents’ hurt.

But, what this means is leaving the experience of the child (you) out of the story. Read more

Woman wearing peace and quiet t-shirt - National Quiet Day - What Silence Can Teach You About Intimacy - Sandra Harewood Counselling

National Quiet Day – What Silence Can Teach You About Intimacy

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Shh.  It’s National Quiet Day.

It’s getting more and more difficult to create a space for solitude and silence.  The noise it seems is an inevitable part of our day.

And I’m not even sure if, collectively as a society, we know how to experience peace and quiet anymore.

London has the highest levels of noise in the UK.  Living in London, I guess I’ve got used to the noise.  Traffic, emergency vehicles, people chatting loudly on mobile phones, barking dogs and car alarms are familiar and all rate highly as annoying to adults in the UK.

But the noise doesn’t have to be loud.  There’s a constant stream of background disturbance, subtly wrestling for the attention of your mind.  Mobile phones give instant access to messaging, emails, music, news, social media, television and movies.  A lot of noise and distraction from that little piece of plastic in your pocket! Read more

Couple Throwing Colored Holi Powder at Each Other For Fun - 24 Ways To Be Playful With Your Partner - Sandra Harewood Counselling

24 Simple Ways To Be Playful With Your Partner – Part 2

Couple Throwing Colored Holi Powder at Each Other For Fun - 24 Ways To Be Playful With Your Partner - Sandra Harewood Counselling

 

Last time I wrote about How Playfulness Can Help Improve Your Relationship. If you missed part one of the series of click here to read that now.

Two of the main reasons why couples in long-term relationships separate are boredom and lack of intimacy.  So it follows that play, enjoyment and fun are vital to keeping a sense of connection between you and your partner.

24 Simple Ways To Be Playful With Your Partner

Here are 24 simple things you can do to bring back playfulness in your relationship. Read more

A Woman Blowing Bubbles - How Playfulness Can Help Improve Your Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling

How Playfulness Can Help Improve Your Relationship – Part 1

A Woman Blowing Bubbles - 7 Ways to be Playful with Your Partner - Sandra Harewood Counselling

 

We’ve just had one of the hottest summer days here in the UK since 1979.  It brought back memories of childhood.  The chimes of the ice cream van, Fab ice lollies, getting soaking wet in the paddling pool at the local park and eating chicken on the beach with family.

Glorious summer; it’s a time for play! Read more