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7 Ways Mindfulness Can Make You A Better Lover

Hard to imagine that sitting quietly and focusing on the breath for as little as 20 minutes a day can improve your love life. But hear me out, practising mindfulness can help make you a better lover and life partner.
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A Little Known Fact That Could Affect Your Relationship

We all have a past. It's part of the unique story that makes you who you are.  Being overly preoccupied with the past perhaps isn’t helpful; but there are undoubtedly important things from your history which, when worked through, can help you fully experience the present and look forward to enjoying a future filled with rewarding relationships. I often notice with clients how difficult it often is for them to connect with any childhood wounding. Telling the story can feel like a betrayal of a parent, particularly if they identify with difficulties in their parent's story. For example, if the parent was ill, abandoned by a partner, suffered bereavement, or had their own history of trauma. It’s often easy is to connect with and understand the parents’ hurt. But, what this means is leaving the experience of the child (you) out of the story.