Sandra Harewood Counsellor providing counselling for couples and individuals in South East London

Welcome

My name is Sandra Harewood. I’m a qualified Counsellor and Couples’ Therapist. What I care about the most is helping you heal and create the life and relationships you deserve.

Let’s Put You First Because I Imagine That Doesn’t Happen Often.

Are you the kind of woman who:

  • People please – you show up for other people but not yourself.
  • Feels anxious a lot of the time and don’t know why
  • Finds it difficult to say no
  • Struggles with self-care
  • Puts your hopes and dreams on the back burner
  • Gets emotionally overwhelmed
  • Tries to be the perfectionist
  • Avoids difficult conversations
  • Often feel silenced or censored
  • Feels irritated, angry or cross more often than you would like
  • Values the advice and opinions of others over and above your own.

And do your relationships feel like:

  • They lack the intimacy you desire
  • Conversations are confusing
  • Conflicts feel hurtful and are never resolved
  • There is a lack of understanding and compassion
  • They are imbalanced, and often you give more than you receive
  • There is an atmosphere filled with blame or criticism
  • You feel at fault, or maybe you’re told you’re at fault
  • You’re treading on eggshells or broken glass

If any of this feels familiar, you may be living with the legacy of narcissistic abuse, from a parent, partner, friend or work colleague.

It hurts, it’s painful, exhausting and soul-destroying feeling this way.  But what I want you to know is that however much life feels confusing, and muddled change and transformation is possible.  You can heal your wounds, recover from the abuse and create the life and relationships you want to experience, discovering your True Self along the way.

My name is Sandra Harewood.

I have found counselling both profoundly supportive and life-changing. Counselling helped me to navigate my journey of personal development with grace and empowerment. I want to share that gift with you.

I believe passionately that counselling and psychotherapy make a positive difference in people’s lives.

All relationships whether it’s with a partner, child, work colleague or friend give you the opportunity to learn something about yourself.  They mirror back your wounding.

Your Healing Journey Starts Here

With me, the work of counselling is to recognise that wounding, heal it and live the life your soul is calling you to.

When make empowered choices about how you want to live your life, you stop reacting, acting on impulse or ruminating and staying stuck and holding the belief that there ‘something wrong with me.’

I have been working with clients for over 10 years and particularly women who have experienced the impact of being in a relationship with someone who is narcissistically wounded. That may have been a parent, partner or a close friend.

Narcissistic abuse can be subtle and difficult to recognise because it covers a range of common symptoms such as anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.  I understand the symptoms and support you to understand and heal from your experience.

You like many people may be more drawn to such relationships. I can help you to learn to recognise these why.   More importantly, I help you to develop the awareness, the self-love, care, sense of worth and self-esteem and to establish stronger and healthier boundaries to recover and heal from narcissistic abuse.

I feel privileged to so this work and to witness transformation and change.

Why I Do This Work

  • I believe counselling works, and you can heal the trauma of the mind, body and soul.
  • The past doesn’t have to have a hold on your present or future
  • When you tune in and listen to your soul shifts in your life happen
  • Relationships are out most significant healing tool, even narcissistic ones
  • I believe passionately that you have the divine right to live your life as fully as possible and to flourish into the fullest version of you. This might feel impossible if you are living with the reality of narcissistic abuse, but you CAN have a different experience.

At the centre of my work is heart.  I have genuine positive regard for all of my clients. I work in a compassionate way while providing enough challenge to allow you to self-reflect on a deeper level.  I will work with you so that you develop, grow and shape your life in a way that feels authentic to you.  You tell your story, in your way and in your own time.    

I wholeheartedly believe that the experience of connection crafted inside the therapy room is one you will be able to craft outside.

What You Need To Know About My Professional Qualifications

A practising counsellor for 10 years, I trained at the Re-Vision Centre for Integrative Psychosynthesis.  So that I provide you with the best possible care, I am committed to my professional development.

I have undertaken training in the following:

  • Post Graduate Diploma in Integrative Psychosynthesis.Counselling
  • Post Graduate Diploma in Couples Counselling: Couples in Search of Soul
  • Bereavement and Complicated Grief
  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
  • Working with Trauma
  • Working with Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
  • Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)
  • Diversity in Counselling.

I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).  Especially important in my practice is the regular and ongoing supervision I have with an Integrative Psychosynthesis Psychotherapist.

What Now?

Contact me today to talk

Find out more about counselling with me call 07535 864836 or click the Get in Touch button for a FREE 15-minute consultation so that I can answer any questions you might have.  I will get back to you as soon as possible.

You can also explore the most frequently asked questions people have when considering my services or check out my blog posts to learn more about how I think and work.

I look forward to hearing from you.

With respect and best wishes

Sandra