Woman Hiding Behind a Smiley Face Picture, Behind Bars - Coercive Control: 7 Reasons Why Women Don't Leave - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Coercive Control: 7 Reasons Why Women Don’t Leave

When Sally Challen walked free from the High Court in London last Friday, many saw this as a landmark decision for how the legal system treats domestic abuse. European countries, including England and Wales, are taking the lead on redefining domestic abuse.

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The Honest Truth About Your Partner’s Anger Issues

You can usually tell when someone is angry. It’s visceral. A raised voice, trembling, fidgeting, fast speech, heavy breathing, the furrowed brow, the clenched hand or maybe flared nostrils. But equally, it can be the opposite. Silence or sudden disappearance.

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Gaslighting 101: What Is Gaslighting And What You Need To Do

Gaslighting is a sophisticated, subtle form of emotional manipulation which is so effective that you accept whatever the gaslighter presents as the truth.

Couple Gazing At Water - 5 Subtle Signs Of A Controlling Relationship That Look Like Care

5 Subtle Signs Of A Controlling Relationship That Look Like Care

When in your relationship do you feel cared for?

Sometimes we feel embarrassed about our wish to be cared for. But Rick Hanson PhD says that wanting to be cared for is natural, and deeply rooted in evolution. Care is a symbol of love. And love, generally speaking, has been the primary driver of the development of the human brain over millions of years. Care is crucial to survival.

Woman Looking in Mirror - 3 Reasons Why It’s Important to Own Your Projection - Sandra Harewood Counselling

3 Reasons Why It’s Important to Own Your Projection

Whether it’s wanting them to be more emotionally responsive, more attentive, reliable and financially responsible or just that they wouldn’t squeeze the toothpaste from the middle of the tube, it seems that we can spend years trying to get our significant other to be different.

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31 Journal Prompts For When Gratitude Is Hard

2019 didn’t start the way I planned.  It was certainly difficult to see any colour other than grey. Gratitude doesn’t seem to fit with pain, suffering and fear. When you’re struggling and survival mode, it doesn’t feel as if there’s space to look beyond what’s necessary to keep you going.  Life isn’t easy sometimes, and in those moments it feels as if it’s working against you, not for you. The feeling is one of resentment, not gratitude.