When you struggle with your partner, you’re struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them represents a denied weakness in yourself. – Deepak Chopra
I’m not sure that I agree with the use of the word weakness, but I understand where Deepak Chopra is coming from.
I don’t know anyone that at some point hasn’t wanted something about their partner to be different. Read more
In my previous blog post, I wrote about the story of Narcissus and Echo to give you clues as to whether you are living with someone with a narcissistic personality. If you didn’t read it click here to check it out.
That post was about understanding the modern day Narcissus. Now it’s Echo’s turn and how living with narcissism affects you. Read more
We all have a past. It’s part of the unique story that makes you who you are.
Being overly preoccupied with the past perhaps isn’t helpful; but there are undoubtedly important things from your history which, when worked through, can help you fully experience the present and look forward to enjoying a future filled with rewarding relationships.
I often notice with clients how difficult it often is for them to connect with any childhood wounding.
Telling the story can feel like a betrayal of a parent, particularly if they identify with difficulties in their parent’s story. For example, if the parent was ill, abandoned by a partner, suffered bereavement, or had their own history of trauma. It’s often easy is to connect with and understand the parents’ hurt.
But, what this means is leaving the experience of the child (you) out of the story. Read more
Brexit is not only shaping politics; it’s influencing romantic relationships too!
It’s a little under a year ago since that historic vote for the UK to leave the European Union. And as the negotiations get underway, it’s a time of change. We find ourselves in challenging and uncertain times.
For some, this feels liberating and exciting. At last, it’s possible to imagine the end of an unhealthy relationship and look forward to starting over.
Then again for others, nothing could further from the truth. A security blanket has been pulled from under their feet. And what was familiar for such a long time, together with their sense identity and belonging are now all at risk.
And there it is; difference.
A different point of view, a different way of seeing the world and a difference in how people are affected by events happening around them. Read more
Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance. Eckhart Tolle
What was the first thought you had about your partner this morning? For instance, was it
I so feel happy?
Wow, I can’t’ wait to spend the rest of the day with him?
I feel safe and secure in this relationship?
On the other hand, was it annoyance with the snoring, fed up because they haven’t brought you your morning cup of tea…again, cross about his messy pile of clothes on the floor or perhaps irritable following an argument the night before? Read more