A sad man sitting against a wall - The Critical Voice of Toxic Shame And How To Silence It- Sandra Harewood Counselling

The Critical Voice of Toxic Shame And How To Silence It


I really admire the work of Brené Brown.  If you’re not familiar with Brené, as well as being one of the world’s leading researchers on the subjects of shame and vulnerability, she is a wonderfully compelling storyteller. Brené Brown talks about difficult topics in a very soulful, humorous and graceful way. Read more

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3 Quotes For The New Year To Achieve The 2018 You Want


Welcome to the New Year and a new chapter in your life!

What are you hoping for in 2018 that would be your opening line?

I know for some that ‘hope’ is a tricky word as it challenges you to permit yourself to have desires, wild dreams and wishes.  And much more than that, to know that the possibilities you would love to experience in life can manifest.  You know you want something to happen, but you don’t claim the possibility that it will.

So if hope is challenging for you, and even if it isn’t, here are three great inspirational quotes for the New Year to connect you with what is within your gift to make possible. They’ll get you thinking about what you can take control of in your life, to create an experience which fully harnesses’ all of you in 2018.  Read more

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One Great Way To Stay Relaxed At Christmas


This time of year can feel full on and hectic. There seems to be a never-ending list of demands to try and meet the needs of other people. It can feel too much.

And that’s not to mention the shopping, planning, cooking, entertaining, wrapping, cards, family and potential worries about money.  Read more

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The Surprising Ways You Hide Your Anger

I don’t think anyone likes to be angry.

I’d hazard a guess and say that most people are scared of anger, whether it’s being angry or facing someone else’s angry emotions and actions.  They just don’t like it.  One reason is that anger makes you feel vulnerable.  At other times it evokes feelings of guilt and shame impacting your sense of self and self-esteem.

And sometimes anger can feel like a dangerous thing.  That’s because sometimes how it’s expressed can be.   Read more

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7 Easy Ways To Be Mindful Daily Without Meditating


Last time I wrote about 7 Ways Why Mindfulness Can Make You A Better Lover.  If you missed part one of the series of click here to read that now.

Mindfulness is a wonderful meditation practice which helps integrate your mind, body and soul. What you cultivate with mindfulness is  ‘presence’.  You become aware of what is happening as it is happening.  And what’s amazing about that, is your brain and body become more connected with other peoples.

We live in a relational world, so being mindful is an indispensable tool when looking to develop deeper, loving connections with your partner, friends and loved ones. Read more

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National Quiet Day – What Silence Can Teach You About Intimacy


Shh.  It’s National Quiet Day.

It’s getting more and more difficult to create a space for solitude and silence.  The noise it seems is an inevitable part of our day. Read more

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5 Imaginative Ways to Remember Your Dreams


What did you dream about last night? Can you remember? Somehow the incredibly vivid images that we remember when we first wake seem to disappear by the time we have eaten breakfast.

Ever since I was a small child, I have always been fascinated with my dreams. I can remember sharing the stories with classmates in the playground who weren’t that interested as they just wanted to play. And, like play, dreams are just another way that we engage with the imagination. Elisa Romeo says that our imagination is our greatest spiritual tool. Read more

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How Do I Know If I Have Depression?



The soul presents itself in a variety of colours, including all shades of grey, blue and black.  To care for the soul, we must observe the full range of colourings and resist the temptation to approve only …the brilliant colours.  Thomas Moore

Whether you call it The Dark Night of the Soul, The Wild Moods or The Black Dog, depression is something that casts a dark shadow over life. Read more