Girl Standing In Front of Brick Wall With Graffiti - The B* Word - Boundaries. Why It's Hard To Stop Saying Yes When You Feel No 1 - Sandra Harewood Counselling

The B* Word – Boundaries. Why It’s Hard To Stop Saying Yes When You Feel No

Girl Standing In Front of Brick Wall With Graffiti - The B* Word - Boundaries. Why It's Hard To Stop Saying Yes When You Feel No 1 - Sandra Harewood Counselling

 

Ever found yourself giving in and putting the needs of someone else first or second guessing yourself?  Can you relate?  Then you know why setting personal boundaries are so hard. Read more

Red Arm Chair In Middle of the Road - Does Therapy Work? Yes It Does, And Here's The Evidence - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Does Therapy Work? Yes It Does, And Here’s The Evidence

Red Arm Chair In Middle of the Road - Does Therapy Work? Yes It Does, And Here's The Evidence - Sandra Harewood Counselling

 

Does therapy work?  Absolutely. Yes, it does!

But you would expect me to say that, wouldn’t you!  What therapist would say otherwise? Read more

Autumn Leaf With Word Thanks On Top - Make Gratitude Your New Year's Resolution for 2019

31 Journal Prompts For When Gratitude Is Hard

Autumn Leaf With Word Thanks On Top - Make Gratitude Your New Year's Resolution for 2019

Gratitude doesn’t change the scenery. It merely washes clean the glass you look through so you can clearly see the colours. Richelle E. Goodrich

2019 didn’t start the way I planned.  It was certainly difficult to see any colour other than grey.

Gratitude doesn’t seem to fit with pain, suffering and fear. Read more

A woman wearing red gloves holding a gift wrapped in brown paper - 5 Great Gifts To Give Yourself This Christmas - Sandra Harewood Counselling

5 Great Gifts To Give Yourself This Christmas

A woman wearing red gloves holding a gift wrapped in brown paper - 5 Great Gifts To Give Yourself This Christmas - Sandra Harewood Counselling

 

It’s always nice to receive a gift, especially when it’s a surprise.

A well-chosen gift can let you know that you have been genuinely heard and profoundly understood. A passing remark picked up on, or a glance in a shop window noticed. Perhaps the giver has been generous with their time and energy letting you know how much you are cared for.

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How To Make Sense of Your Anxiety Symptoms: Trust Your Body

How To Make Sense of Your Anxiety Symptoms: Trust Your Body

How To Make Sense of Your Anxiety Symptoms: Trust Your Body

 

In my previous blog post, I wrote about How To Tell If Your Relationship Is Causing You Anxiety. Now let’s address your anxiety symptoms.

Anxiety is common. In 2013 there were 8.2 million cases of anxiety in the UK. So if you’re experiencing anxiety symptoms, you are not alone. Read more

Black Woman Holding Her Head In Her Hands -What A Blue Fish Tells You About Your Anxiety - Sandra Harewood Counselling

How To Tell If Your Relationship Is Causing Your Anxiety

Black Woman Holding Her Head In Her Hands -What A Blue Fish Tells You About Your Anxiety - Sandra Harewood Counselling

 

If the story of your relationship (maybe it feels more like a drama) is punctuated with problematic narcissistic behaviours sadly, anxiety will likely also play a part. Read more

Butterfly on a woman's finger - Scared of Being Vulnerable? Here's the Truth-Sandra-Harewood-Counselling

Scared of Being Vulnerable? Here’s the Truth

Butterfly on a woman's finger - Scared of Being Vulnerable? Here's the Truth-Sandra-Harewood-Counselling

 

Right now, as I struggle to find what I want to be the ‘right’ words for this blog post, I’m feeling pretty vulnerable.  That’s because, there’s a part of me that knows if I don’t find the right words, and write the perfect post, I will hear familiar voices in my head.

“Is that correct grammar?  I’m not sure. Yeah, it is, it’s fine. Uhm, maybe I should find a copywriter.  But, what will they think?”

“Okay Sandra, don’t publish it.  Don’t let anyone see it.  Don’t let anyone see you!”

This is my encounter with vulnerability; feeling shy, hesitant and exposed. Read more

A sad man sitting against a wall - The Critical Voice of Toxic Shame And How To Silence It- Sandra Harewood Counselling

The Critical Voice of Toxic Shame And How To Silence It

The Critical Voice of Toxic Shame And How To Silence It

 

I really admire the work of Brené Brown.  If you’re not familiar with Brené, as well as being one of the world’s leading researchers on the subjects of shame and vulnerability, she is a wonderfully compelling storyteller. Brené Brown talks about difficult topics in a very soulful, humorous and graceful way. Read more

Doormat With Oh Shit Not You Again In Words - Why It's Hard To Stop Being A People Pleaser And Say No - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Why It’s Hard To Stop Being A People Pleaser And Say No

 

Doormat With Oh Shit Not You Again In Words - Why It's Hard To Stop Being A People Pleaser And Say No - Sandra Harewood Counselling

 

It’s painful when you find yourself in a relationship continually giving more than you receive. And yet at the same time, it’s hard to stop being a people pleaser.  In fact, it’s a role that you’ve become all too used to.

And really, why would you want to do that, even to the point of being unhappy, stressed, resentful, and physically and emotionally ill?

The answer: Read more

Glass Jewellery Box With Jewels - How To Invest In Yourself & Why Your Not Doing It - Sandra Harewood Counselling-2

How To Invest In Yourself & Why You’re Not Doing It

Glass Jewellery Box With Jewels - How To Invest In Yourself & Why Your Not Doing It - Sandra Harewood Counselling

 

Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you. Robin Sharma

If you’ve been thinking about having counselling but haven’t booked a session yet, what’s getting in your way?

Making the decision to start is a hard one.  People usually think about beginning counselling when they’re hurt or struggling with painful feelings. The thought of sharing those feelings with a stranger can feel scary.  Before you know it, the days and weeks have passed, you’re feeling a little better and besides you’re too busy now anyway.  Read more