Relationships and connections with others are essential.
Connection, along with love and belonging (two expressions of connection), is why we are here, and it is what gives us purpose and meaning in our lives. Brené Brown
Close relationships provide us with some of life’s greatest happiness and satisfaction. However, if you’re experiencing difficulty in your relationship, it can be a painful and confusing time.
The reality is that all couples struggle at one time or another. Difficulties in marriage and long-term relationships are common. When the romantic phase ends, disillusionment follows. Naturally, you will experience these challenges.
However, in a relationship which is narcissistically vulnerable or emotionally immature, the challenges are fast and furious.
These relationships are characterised by blame, criticism and the lack of empathy. Unwanted feelings get projected. There may be competitiveness or power struggles within the relationship, and you may get locked into familiar fixed positions. To be sure, withdrawal, withholding or disengaging are frequent visitors.
Couple counselling is a space where you can look at these issues further.
Couple Counselling Could Support You If You Are:
- Drifting apart and feeling disconnected
- Experiencing betrayal, an affair or issues relating to jealousy
- Continually arguing or fighting
- Experiencing difficulties with sexual intimacy and emotional closeness
- Struggling to communicate effectively about crucial issues
- Having disagreements over parenting and how to raise your children
- Dealing with infertility or loss
How I Work With Your Relationship
Your relationship is co-created by you and your partner. It’s the mysterious Third Body that needs loving attention and cherishing, just as you would any other living thing to keep it alive.
In the couple counselling sessions as well as looking at your current difficulties, individual histories and experiences, we also look at the story and experiences of the relationship. In doing so, you can see beyond the present-day problems to see what deeper needs the relationship has and is drawing your attention to.
Also, looking at family stories and earlier intimate relationships gives an insight into differences in communication styles, values and even what being in a loving relationship means.
Above all relationships go through phases which are marked change. And with change comes endings. Of course, an ending doesn’t necessarily mean a breakup. But what it does mean, is understanding what is different for the two of you. With that comes loss and grief. Couple counselling provides space to express the sadness and anger that follows, as well as exploring what next.
With Commitment, Couple Counselling Can Help You To:
- Understand the issues underlying your current difficulties and disagreements
- Develop strong empathy and listening skills
- Gain awareness of the relationship patterns you have developed
- Improve communication skills so that you can understand each other
- Recognise and appreciate each other’s differences
- Learn how to express your needs
- Learn how to open up to new levels of sexual and emotional intimacy with each other
- Increase your capacity to tolerate and manage difficult conversations.
Couple counselling is a courageous step to lean into those difficulties. As a result, the possibility for your relationship is a more profound sense of union and connection.
Contact Me Today to Talk
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