Let’s work together – Helping you emerge from controlling relationships

Soul Centred Counselling For Women

If you’re feeling anxious or depressed. Or maybe relying on unhealthy habits to survive, you can feel better.  Develop a toolbox for coping and find the deeper meaning of your struggles.

Controlling Relationships

While you want your relationship to work, you feel trapped.  Afterall success, age, wealth or education, don’t protect you from a controlling partner.  Reconnect with your authentic inner wisdom and strengths.

Couples Counselling

Finally, decode what you are really saying to each other.  Couple counselling for couples committed to making change and to have a healthy adult relationship.

HOW CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR CAN MAKE YOU FEEL

Is This You?

Something doesn’t feel right, and it hasn’t for a while

You wanted this relationship to work.  You thought you found you’re soul mate, someone who was attentive and wanted the same things you did.  

Now you’re not sure.

Something has changed.

You drop hints to friends and family because other people’s opinion matters to you.  Some think you’re the perfect couple and others can’t understand why you stay.  

In the meantime, while you try to figure things out, familiar voices kick in.

  • Guilt keeps you, people-pleasing
  • Anxiety stops you breathing because you’re treading on eggshells
  • Shame tells you that you’re a terrible person to feel angry
  • Sex is for people who live on Mars
  • Your Inner Critic believes the judgement and blame
  • Perfectionism tells you to try harder
  • Confusion makes it hard to concentrate and believe in yourself.

You’re not sure whether your partner is controlling and your feelings are a response to coercive and controlling behaviour.

But what you do know is that home doesn’t feel like a nurturing, supportive, loving environment.

THE EFFECTS OF LONG TERM COERCIVE CONTROL AND TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

  • Mind

    PTSD, Complex PTSD, dissociation, hypervigilance, impaired memory and decision making, loss of concentration and focus, cognitive dissonance, anxiety and depression.

  • Body

    Chronic pain, sleep disorders, hypertension, digestive problems, eating disorders, sexual inhibition, chronic fatigue and suicidal thoughts.

  • Soul

    Hopelessness, isolation, loss of identity, poor self-esteem, sadness, grief, shame, busyness and addiction.

I’M SANDRA AND I HELP WOMEN TO RECOVER FROM CONTROLLING RELATIONSHIPS

Sandra Harewood Counsellor providing counselling for couples and individuals in South East London

I’m an experienced BACP registered counsellor deeply committed to supporting the well-being of women in London and beyond.  At present, I work 100% online.

Our relationships are important.  And in essence, relationships with controlling partners displaying controlling behaviours are unhealthy.  I support my clients to understand what is going on.

The counselling I offer will help you heal from the impact of emotionally abusive relationships. In due time you’ll rediscover your true essence and soul.  With a new sense of self-confidence, self-esteem and self-awareness comes the opening of new possibilities.  At the same time, I support you to navigate the more difficult feelings, such as anger, grief and loss.

With patience and compassion as you develop a new awareness and the tools, you require to navigate your unique journey; you can craft the life you envision for yourself.

Ultimately it’s an honour and a privilege to do this work.  I look forward to being of support to you.

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