• Relationship Counselling

When your relationship feels complicated, you’re not alone.  Our adult relationships bring to the surface any underlying trauma, hurt and grief, much of which you’re likely to be unaware of.

What also arises in a relationship are any previous unmet needs or desires.  These unresolved issues are usually footprints from insensitive or neglectful parenting, loss or other traumatic childhood experiences.

The past is always present.

Maybe you’re struggling to figure out what is going on and want to understand your relational patterns with yourself and others. In that case, relationship counselling can help make sense of and understand the changes needed to experience healthy, loving relationships.

Relationships don’t have to be complicated all of the time.

Looking outwards has got to be turned into looking into oneself. Discovering yourself provides you with all you are, were meant to be, and all you are living from and for. Carl Jung

With Relationship Counselling You Will:

  • Take stock of where you are now.
  • Make sense of your relationship and understand the unconscious bond between you and your partner.
  • Identify any trauma or trauma-related symptoms, e.g., depression, anxiety, physical illness, addiction, or eating disorders.
  • Reconnect with your feelings and emotions, seeing them as a source of inner wisdom and information.
  • Contact and befriend your inner child – current ones often trigger old relationship stories.
  • Develop tools to deepen connection and intimacy.
  • Because shame is primary in controlling relationships, compassionately integrate the aspects of you that you always felt were hard to understand.
  • Grieve.
  • Develop new tools for loving, e.g. mindfulness, journalling, self-compassion, non-violent communication skills, and a robust but loving inner parent to support the younger parts of yourself.
  • Take full responsibility for your life.
  • Be ready to participate fully in a deeply loving relationship as you show up as the partner you want to be.

Relationship Counselling Creates Lasting Change

As a result, the skills you will learn in your counselling sessions will help you make meaningful, long-lasting changes and set you up for having the relationships you want and deserve. In essence, you will rediscover your autonomy, confidence and interdependence.

As you deepen the relationship with yourself, you will deepen the relationships with those you choose to love. Importantly, you will guide the counselling sessions in a way that feels right for you. I will provide insight, understanding, and possibly new perspectives to help you cope with overwhelming thoughts or emotions.

You’re Worth It

Counselling is a commitment and investment in yourself. Perhaps for the first time in your life, you’ll begin to feel optimistic about what the future holds and confident that you’ll be able to handle the things that life inevitably throws up along the way and create fulfilling relationships.

A Little About What Your Counselling Sessions Look Like

As a psychosynthesis trained counsellor and couple therapist, I understand the complexity of relationships.  I recognise healthy relationships and the symptoms of unhealthy ones. 

Integrative Psychosynthesis draws on several approaches, including Psychodynamic, Gestalt, Archetypal and Jungian psychology. And these different ways of working help you to look at your past, present and future in a flexible approach that best meets your need and provide the right support for you. 

Drawings, dreams, meditation, visualisation, poetry, music and story-telling are all profound ways of reconnecting with unconscious parts of you. With consciousness comes awareness, and with increased self-awareness comes choice.

When you make fully conscious and active choices, you can better handle the dilemmas and challenges your relationship and life bring. 

While exploring the past is essential, I also recognise that you have a transpersonal essence, something greater than your ordinary self.

The counselling sessions will help you identify and express that essence or self.  Your sessions with me will embrace all that you are; light and shadow, joy and pain and all the different shades of grey in between. 

Sometimes, in your deepest and darkest moments, we find the most potential.  


Contact Me To Talk Today

Call 07535 864836 or click the Get in Touch button for a FREE 15-minute consultation.  I will get back to you as soon as possible.