If you‘re feeling overwhelmed or stuck in your life or relationship…..there is another way.

You wonder whether you’re the only one who feels that relationships are so difficult and painful at times. The hardest bit is trying to act okay when you’re not.  Inside you’re emotionally exhausted, tired of the same old arguments, disappointment and hurt.  Sometimes it hurts so much, that it physically hurts.  It’s quite normal that you long to be free from the tension, anxiety, loneliness and deafening silences of a relationship that feels like it’s just not working.  It’s as if you’re on a small boat riding the ocean’s stormy waves and you just want to feel your feet on solid ground once again and breath.

Well, you’re not alone.

Relationships are hard. And sometimes they are heartbreaking. When you fall in love, after time you may have found it difficult to hold on to that loving feeling.  If you are trapped in a cycle of hurt, hopelessness and despair it can be hard to picture your life and relationship differently. Maybe you’re feeling confused, scared, or so full of resentment and anger that it seems impossible to turn things around.  There is a different way.

Love is a hero’s journey, and the hero’s journey is a noble but difficult path.  Marianne Williamson

You don’t have to suffer alone. You can heal your relationship wounds, experience stronger, healthier relationships and a more connected and fulfilled life.  Sometimes you just need a little help getting there.  The journey starts here.

How I Help

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heart with clothespin hanging on a rope Couples Counselling Norwood London with Sandra Harewood Counsellor

Individual Counselling

If you’re feeling lost and alone and not sure how to find your way to peace, joy, and happiness….it is possible.  You can release those old patterns that have so far blocked you and experience a conscious, enlivened and loving life.  Find out more about individual counselling.

Couples Counselling

All of us face challenges in our relationships.  However, you don’t have to go through the pain alone.  I’m passionate about helping couples create loving, rewarding, and satisfying long-term relationships.  Find out more about couples counselling with a soulful perspective.


For articles and tools to support your marriage, relationships and emotional wellbeing visit the blog.  There’s a growing collection of articles to help you to live a connected and fulfilled life.

A Little About Me

Sandra Harewood Counsellor providing counselling for couples and individuals in South East London

Welcome.  I’m Sandra Harewood.

I’m a registered counsellor deeply committed to supporting the well-being of individuals and couples in South East London and beyond.  From my therapy room in West Norwood, I work with clients to help them make sense of their relationships and why they often feel so complicated.

Many people are repeatedly drawn to relationships which leave them feeling worn out, anxious, unhappy, empty, worried and powerless.  I support my clients to heal from the impact of such relationships and to rediscover their self-confidence, self-esteem and develop a more profound sense of self-awareness so that they can make different choices.

It’s an honour and a privilege to do this work.  You, as my client, come first.  I work with you to help you feel a new sense of aliveness, joy,  fulfilment, wholeness and empowerment.  You develop awareness, and the tools you require to navigate your unique special journey and to craft the life you envision for yourself.

I look forward to being of support to you.

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The Unexpected Gift From a Relationship

It’s easy to blame your partner for your dissatisfaction, but the truth is that both partners contribute to the dynamic of a relationship.  How you feel about yourself, how you communicate, how you behave or react all have an impact on the quality of your relationships.  What you see in your partner and all their difficulties, is often a clue to your own emotional wounding and the parts you that you are cut off from.

Strangely enough, that’s a very precious gift your partner is offering you, whether they know it or not.

And if you accept, that becomes a way for you to recognise and heal your own wounds.  Your wounding may have led to depression, anger or unexpressed grief.  With healing comes the opportunity to reconnect with a more authentic, conscious, soulful sense of you developing and embodying your deeper, hidden gifts.

I provide you with the tools to empower you with the information and awareness about you, your partner and your relationship.  You can have the life and relationship you deserve.  It starts with you.  And counselling can help you to do this; offering support and a witness to your difficulties, challenges and transition.  Counselling gives you the time and breathing space just to be, to receive empathy and acceptance so that you can heal yourself, relationships and make choices to turn your life around. 

Contact and Connect

Book your FREE initial 15-minute consultation today or to find out more get in touch.  Phone me on 07535 864836 or click the Let’s Talk button below and fill out the contact form.  I will get back to you as soon as possible, generally by the next working day. 

Articles From My Blog

Doormat With Oh Shit Not You Again In Words - Why It's Hard To Stop Being A People Pleaser And Say No - Sandra Harewood Counselling
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Man Looking In Three Way Mirror - Is My Partner A Narcissist - The Dance Between Narcissus and Echo - Sandra Harewood Counselling
Two Red Paper Hearts On A Clothes Line - 20 Love Quotes That Express The True Meaning Of Love - Sandra Harewood Counselling