Sandra Harewood Counsellor providing counselling for couples and individuals in South East London

Sandra Harewood MSc., Integrative Counsellor & Couple Therapist

My work as a relationship counsellor is about helping thoughtful, creative, high-achieving and soul-centred women figure out how to come home to themselves. Hopefully, if we work together, over time, it will help you feel more connected to your authentic self, be more fully yourself in relationships, and able to feel good enough.

Your Healing Journey Starts Here

I know that unhealthy relationships hurt, and are painful. Not to forget exhausting.  But what I want you to know is that however, much life feels confusing, and muddled change and transformation is possible.  You can heal your wounds, recover from the controlling relationship and create the life and relationships you want to experience, discovering your True Self along the way.

I have found counselling both profoundly supportive, challenging and life-changing.  

And so I want to share that gift with you.

Counselling helped me to navigate my journey of personal development with grace and empowerment.    And yes, I do continue to have therapy.  That’s because I practice what I preach, and I also know what it is like to be in the client’s chair.

Ideally, counselling and psychotherapy should be for all of us; they are like eating good food, going to the gym or being immersed in a hobby that you love yet stretches you.

I believe passionately that counselling and psychotherapy will make a positive difference in your life. You can read a little about my journey into starting therapy here.

All relationships, whether it’s with a partner, child, work colleague or friend, allow you to learn something about yourself and your wounds.  As your relationship counsellor, I will help you make sense of those controlling relationships. 

Time To Thrive

With me, the work of counselling is to recognise that wounding caused by the control in your life, heal it and live the life your soul is calling you to.

When making empowered choices about how you want to live, you stop reacting, acting on impulse or ruminating and staying stuck and holding the belief that there ‘something wrong with me.’

I have been working with clients for over 11 years.  My clients are predominately by not exclusively women who have experienced the impact of being in a controlling relationship often with someone who is narcissistically wounded or emotionally immature.  That person may have been a parent, partner or a close friend.

Controlling behaviour and narcissistic abuse are often subtle.  It’s difficult to recognise because it covers a range of common symptoms such as anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.  I understand the symptoms and support you to understand and heal from your experience.

You, like many people, maybe more drawn to such relationships. I can help you to learn to recognise these why.   More importantly, I help you to develop the awareness, the self-love, care, sense of worth and self-esteem and to establish more robust and healthier boundaries to recover and heal from narcissistic abuse.

I feel privileged to do this work and to witness transformation and change.

Why I Am A Relationship Counsellor

  • I am a relationship counsellor because I believe counselling works.  You can heal the trauma of the mind, body and soul.
  • The past doesn’t have to have a hold on your present or future.
  • When you tune in and listen to your soul shifts in your life happen.
  • Relationships are our most important healing tool, even narcissistic ones.
  • I believe passionately that you have the divine right to live your life as fully as possible and to flourish into the fullest version of you. This might feel impossible if you are living with the reality of narcissistic abuse, but you CAN have a different experience.

At the centre of my work is the heart.  I have a genuine positive regard for all of my clients.  My work is compassionate while providing enough challenge to allow you to self-reflect on a deeper level sp that you develop, grow and shape your life in a way that feels authentic to you.  You tell your story, in your way and in your own time.    

I wholeheartedly believe that the experience of connection crafted inside the therapy room is one you will be able to craft outside.

What You Need To Know About My Professional Qualifications

A practising counsellor and relationship counsellor for 11 years, I trained at the Re-Vision Centre for Integrative Psychosynthesis.  So that I provide you with the best possible care, I am committed to my professional development.

I have undertaken training in the following:

  • Post Graduate Diploma in Integrative Psychosynthesis.Counselling
  • Post Graduate Diploma in Couples Counselling: Couples in Search of Soul
  • Certificate in Bereavement and Complicated Grief
  • Certificate in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
  • Working with Trauma including with Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) and Babette Rothchild
  • Working with Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
  • Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR)
  • Diversity in Counselling
  • Codependency

I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).  Essential to my practice is the regular supervision I have with an Integrative Psychosynthesis Psychotherapist.

Get in Touch

Call 07535 864836 or click the button below to arrange FREE 15-minute consultation to discuss what you’re looking for and how I can support you.  I will get back to you as soon as I can.