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End The Indecision & Stuckness Of A Relationship On The Brink And Step Into The Happy, Healthy Life You Deserve.
Reconnect with your inner wisdom and strengths while developing a toolbox for coping as you find the deeper meaning of your relationship struggles. You’ll confidently make the hard decisions about your options for divorce, separation or recommitment and take empowered steps, whether you decide to stay or leave.
Finally, de-code what you are really saying to each other. Couple counselling and coaching for couples whose relationship is on the brink and who want clarity and confidence. This threshold can be the beginning of a more profound transformation and experience of deeper connection in this relationship or, if you decide, in future ones.
ARE YOU FEELING CONFUSED ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE?
Something doesn’t feel right, and it hasn’t for a while. You wanted this relationship to work. You thought you found your soul mate, someone who was attentive and wanted the same things you did. Now you’re not sure. The relationship is on the brink. Something has changed. You drop hints to friends and family because other people’s opinion matters to you. Some think you’re the perfect couple, and others can’t understand why you stay. In the meantime, while you try to figure things out, familiar voices kick in.
- Guilt keeps you people-pleasing.
- Anxiety stops your breathing because you’re treading on eggshells
- Shame tells you that you’re a terrible person to feel angry
- Enjoyable sex is for people who live on the planet Jupiter
- Your Inner Critic listens to any judgement or blame
- Perfectionism means you try harder
- Confusion makes it hard to concentrate and believe in yourself.
- ‘I’m done, I want a divorce!’
You’re unsure whether your partner is controlling, and your feelings are a response to controlling behaviour. After so long, and now you are in midlife, you’re unsure whether you should stay or leave. What if you have more control and agency than you think?
My services are designed to meet you exactly where you are, whether you are actively considering the separation or divorce process or wanting to recommit. The result of working with me is clarity, calmness and the courage to take the next step.
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HI, I’M SANDRA
I Help Women To Get Clarity, Confidence And The Courage To Take Action About Difficult Relationships
I’m an experienced UKCP, and BACP registered counsellor, couple therapist and Jungian Coach deeply committed to supporting the well-being of women in London and beyond. At present, I work 100% online.
Our relationships are so important. Uncertainty about the future can create confusion and leave you feeling sick to your very core. I support women considering divorce and separation, taking the focus off their partner (whether or not they will or will not change), and refocusing instead on reconnection with their inner resources and wisdom.
With a new sense of self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-awareness comes the opening of new possibilities. You will make the decisions that are right for you. And as you do so, I’ll support you to navigate the more complex feelings, such as anger, grief and loss. With patience and compassion, as you develop a new awareness and the tools you require to navigate your unique journey, you can craft the life you envision for yourself, whether that’s staying in the relationship or leaving.
Relationships with partners displaying controlling behaviours are particularly unhealthy. I have many years of experience in working with these and relationships with other types of difficult personalities. Ultimately it’s an honour and a privilege to do this work. I look forward to being of support to you.
WHAT WOMEN ARE SAYING ABOUT WORKING WITH ME
I fully believe the deeper self-love and resilience she helped foster in me has carried me through this huge life change. I also feel I am on the brink of some big life changes and new choices that are coming into motion with more self-leadership, integrity and higher self-esteem; the fruits of the time invested in counselling with Sandra.
Thank you so much for being such a sensitive, kind and intuitive counsellor. My sessions with you have been of great support, comfort and insight.