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End The Indecision & Stuckness Of A Relationship On The Brink And Step Into The Happy, Healthy Life You Deserve.

Support For Women

Reconnect with your inner wisdom and strengths while developing a toolbox for coping as you find the deeper meaning of your relationship struggles. You’ll confidently make the hard decisions about your options for divorce, separation or recommitment and take empowered steps, whether you decide to stay or leave.

Support For Couples

Finally, de-code what you are really saying to each other. Couple counselling and coaching for couples whose relationship is on the brink and who want clarity and confidence. This threshold can be the beginning of a more profound transformation and experience of deeper connection in this relationship or, if you decide, in future ones.

ARE YOU FEELING CONFUSED ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE?

Something doesn’t feel right, and it hasn’t for a while. You wanted this relationship to work. You thought you found your soul mate, someone who was attentive and wanted the same things you did.   Now you’re not sure.  The relationship is on the brink. Something has changed. You drop hints to friends and family because other people’s opinion matters to you. Some think you’re the perfect couple, and others can’t understand why you stay.   In the meantime, while you try to figure things out, familiar voices kick in.

  • Guilt keeps you people-pleasing.
  • Anxiety stops your breathing because you’re treading on eggshells
  • Shame tells you that you’re a terrible person to feel angry
  • Enjoyable sex is for people who live on the planet Jupiter
  • Your Inner Critic listens to any judgement or blame
  • Perfectionism means you try harder
  • Confusion makes it hard to concentrate and believe in yourself.
  • ‘I’m done, I want a divorce!’

You’re unsure whether your partner is controlling, and your feelings are a response to controlling behaviour. After so long, and now you are in midlife, you’re unsure whether you should stay or leave. What if you have more control and agency than you think?

My services are designed to meet you exactly where you are, whether you are actively considering the separation or divorce process or wanting to recommit. The result of working with me is clarity, calmness and the courage to take the next step.

THE EFFECTS OF LONG TERM CONFUSION IN RELATIONSHIPS

  • Mind

    The build-up of anger because you’re stuck in a marriage you resent.

    Confusion because you don’t know what to do which then energises guilt.

    Disconnection from yourself because you feel pressured to hide how you feel

    Triggered regularly (dissociation, hypervigilance, impaired decision making, loss of concentration and focus, cognitive dissonance), which means you don’t feel your best self

  • Body

    Exhaustion because you give your energy to everyone else but don’t prioritize looking after yourself.

    Stress and burnout because you feel unsupported.

    You keep getting sick, feel run down or are vulnerable to chronic pain, chronic illness and digestive problems.

    Unable to get proper restorative sleep, rest or relax

    Your nervous system is frequently in a fight, flight, freeze or fawn state of overwhelm and fear-based anxiety.

    Reduced sexual energy (Eros) is available for intimacy or creativity.

    Self-soothing and displacing emotional pain onto food, alcohol and other addictive patterns.

  • Soul

    You feel despair and hopelessness.

    You become disconnected from your life’s meaning and purpose, longing for deeper connections.

    Feel held back and unable to express your natural gifts and abilities

    Struggle to make decisions and feel like you you’re stuck in repeating patterns & situations

    In the absence of excitement or passion, your life feels boring.

    Loss of self often asking ‘who am I?’ or ‘what do I want?’

    Unable to reach your full potential because your current circumstances are affecting your health, mind or relationships

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Blog posts are written specifically with your relationship in mind.  Cut through the confusion and move forward with clarity.

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HI, I’M SANDRA

I Help Women To Get Clarity, Confidence And The Courage To Take Action About Difficult Relationships

Sandra Harewood Relationship Transformation Coach-2

I’m an experienced UKCP, and BACP registered counsellor, couple therapist and Jungian Coach deeply committed to supporting the well-being of women in London and beyond. At present, I work 100% online.

Our relationships are so important. Uncertainty about the future can create confusion and leave you feeling sick to your very core. I support women considering divorce and separation, taking the focus off their partner (whether or not they will or will not change), and refocusing instead on reconnection with their inner resources and wisdom.

With a new sense of self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-awareness comes the opening of new possibilities.  You will make the decisions that are right for you.  And as you do so, I’ll support you to navigate the more complex feelings, such as anger, grief and loss. With patience and compassion, as you develop a new awareness and the tools you require to navigate your unique journey, you can craft the life you envision for yourself, whether that’s staying in the relationship or leaving.

Relationships with partners displaying controlling behaviours are particularly unhealthy. I have many years of experience in working with these and relationships with other types of difficult personalities.   Ultimately it’s an honour and a privilege to do this work. I look forward to being of support to you.

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WHAT WOMEN ARE SAYING ABOUT WORKING WITH ME

I fully believe the deeper self-love and resilience she helped foster in me has carried me through this huge life change. I also feel I am on the brink of some big life changes and new choices that are coming into motion with more self-leadership, integrity and higher self-esteem; the fruits of the time invested in counselling with Sandra.

Thank you so much for being such a sensitive, kind and intuitive counsellor.  My sessions with you have been of great support, comfort and insight.

ARTICLES FROM MY BLOG

Having fun blowing bubbles - 70 Simple Words; One Positive Affirmation to Nourish Your Soul Today - Sandra Harewood Counselling

One Positive Affirmation to Nourish Your Soul

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What’s Your Love Language?

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The four letter F word on a censored wooden sign - Do You Struggle With Feelings?- Sandra Harewood Counselling

Do You Struggle With Your Feelings?

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Complex PTSD: How Early Relational Trauma Impacts Relationships - Scattered Jigsaw Puzzle - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Complex PTSD: How Early Relational Trauma Impacts Relationships

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What To Expect When You Have Couple Counselling - Sandra Harewood Counselling

What To Expect When You Have Couple Counselling

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3 Things You Need to Know About Letting Go - Three Women Holding on To Multiple Shopping Bags Afraid Of Letting Them Go - Sandra Harewood Counselling

3 Things You Need to Know About Letting Go

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Here’s How To Improve Your Self-Care Practice Today

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Boundaries In Relationships: How To Know When You Need To Take Control

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