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12 Steps to Handle Conflict and Help Improve Your Relationship.

Joy and pain are perhaps the opposite sides of the same emotional coin.

I am reminded of the song by Frankie Beverly & Maze, equating these emotions to the weather, much like it has been over the past few days: glorious sunshine in the crisp winter air followed by unexpected thunderous rain. Read more

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3 Reasons Why It’s Important to Own Your Projection


When you struggle with your partner, you’re struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them represents a denied weakness in yourself. – Deepak Chopra

I’m not sure that I agree with the use of the word weakness, but I understand where Deepak Chopra is coming from.

I don’t know anyone who hasn’t wanted something about their partner to be different. Read more

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The Mistake Couples Make That Destroys Harmony


Brexit is not only shaping politics; it’s influencing romantic relationships too! 

It’s a little under a year ago since that historic vote for the UK to leave the European Union. And as the negotiations get underway, it’s a time of change.  We find ourselves in challenging and uncertain times.

For some, this feels liberating and exciting.  At last, it’s possible to imagine the end of an unhealthy relationship and look forward to starting over.

Then again for others, nothing could further from the truth.  A security blanket has been pulled from under their feet.  And what was familiar for such a long time, together with their sense identity and belonging are now all at risk.

And there it is; difference.

A different point of view, a different way of seeing the world and a difference in how people are affected by events happening around them. Read more