Understanding how long-term relationships really work helps you set realistic expectations for yourself and your partner. There’s relief in finally knowing the why.
From there, it becomes easier to see what’s healthy or unhealthy and to make clear decisions about the changes you want to create. These blog posts are here to guide you through that process.
Our values play a key role in relationships, especially in marriage, and become obvious when they feel out of sync. Differing values can cause confusion and emotional distance, leaving you unsure about whether to stay, leave, or continue. Gaining clarity is essential. Read more
I remember returning from a holiday in the sun years ago. When I got home and opened my suitcase, to my shock and horror, I discovered that I’d brought back an unexpected guest—a live cockroach. My head nearly hit the ceiling. I had no idea that I had brought this little creature back with me. I wish I hadn’t! Read more
One of the biggest frustrations I hear from women struggling with their marriage is the feeling that their needs are not being met. Read more
Midlife is a threshold that calls us to reevaluate our lives and the relationships that have made us who we are.
For many, this season brings an unwelcome crisis in our marriage, marked by disconnection, loneliness, frustration, or an aching sense that something essential has been lost. Read more
At their core, our intimate relationships are a meeting of lives, each with its own rhythm, history, and needs. However, these rhythms can become out of sync over time, leading to a sense of disconnection in relationships and an accompanying feeling of being misunderstood. Read more
Many women unknowingly carry a subtle undercurrent of anxiety. It often lingers beneath the surface, undetected, until it spills into the fabric of everyday life, making it impossible to ignore.
I have met many women terrified of being labelled as needy in their relationships.
The problem is that the more they resist the unhelpful judgement that goes with labels, the more they deny they have any actual needs.
The truth is we all have needs.
There is a big difference between having needs and neediness. In this blog, I will outline the difference between the two.
Being in a committed long-term relationship is one of the most significant and rewarding things you can do. It’s also one of the hardest. For couples looking to communicate better or for tools to improve their marriage, reading a good marriage book together can help open you to different possibilities. Read more
We are well and truly in autumn: a new season but a familiar pattern. Every year the seasons come and go. It’s nature’s predictable and yet often unpredictable cycle.
Relationships are the same. They, too, have their seasons. For many couples, the pattern feels unpredictable. A period of what feels like the depth of winter never entirely shifts to make way for spring with all its possibilities. Read more
Projection and projective identification have a significant role to play in relationship breakdown.
Before we dive deep into why that is, here’s a reminder for you to read last week’s post. Last week’s blog post was about how you can see your partner as someone from your past without even realising it. And then how you treat your partner in ways that have nothing to do with them.
You can check it out here if you haven’t read that post.
This week we are going to talk about projection and projective identification. Read more