Tips, tools and advice for you on creating and maintaining healthy relationships with those who matter.

What’s Your Love Language?

Okay, so I’ve missed Valentines Day.  It will come again.  But in the meantime, do you know what your love language is? Read more

Boundaries In Relationships: How To Know White Picket Fence In Front Of Green Shrub - When You Need To Take Control - Sandra Harewood

Boundaries In Relationships: How To Know When You Need To Take Control

So what’s your favourite season? I love the autumn, and it’s definitely on its way! Right now, I’m looking outside my window and noticing the leaves blowing around in the light breeze. Some get blown off, and others cling to the branches of the trees.  And this got me thinking about boundaries in relationships.  Read more

Man And Woman Laying Down Head To Head Holding Hands - Why Attachment Styles Matter to Your Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Why Attachment Styles Matter To Your Relationship

Have you ever wondered why your partner always seems to want to escape when you argue? 

Or perhaps why you always seem to be the one trying to get them to stay in the room and make things better.

It might all be down to attachment styles. Read more

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The B* Word – Boundaries. Why It’s Hard To Stop Saying Yes When You Feel No

 

Ever found yourself giving in and putting the needs of someone else first or second-guessing yourself?  Can you relate?  Then you know why setting personal boundaries are so hard. Read more

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20 Love Quotes That Express The True Meaning Of Love

 

There are only a couple more days until Valentine’s Day.

So to get into the spirit of the day, I’m sharing thoughts and sayings about love. These are from people who I think you’ll find have something interesting to say about this thing called love.

And I’ve chosen these 20 love quotes because they’re timeless. They’re thoughts not just about happy, romantic love but of the many different types of love and phases of love.  Read more

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7 Ways Mindfulness Can Make You A Better Lover

 

Hard to imagine that sitting quietly and focusing on the breath for as little as 20 minutes a day can improve your love life.

But hear me out, practising mindfulness can help make you a better lover and life partner. Read more

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24 Simple Ways To Be Playful With Your Partner – Part 2

 

Last time I wrote about How Playfulness Can Help Improve Your Relationship. If you missed part one of the series of click here to read that now.

Two of the main reasons why couples in long-term relationships separate are boredom and lack of intimacy.  So it follows that play, enjoyment and fun are vital to keeping a sense of connection between you and your partner.

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How Playfulness Can Help Improve Your Relationship – Part 1

 

We’ve just had one of the hottest summer days here in the UK since 1979.  It brought back memories of childhood.  The chimes of the ice cream van, Fab ice lollies, getting soaking wet in the paddling pool at the local park and eating chicken on the beach with family.

Glorious summer; it’s a time for play! Read more

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The Mistake Couples Make That Destroys Harmony

 

Brexit is not only shaping politics; it’s influencing romantic relationships too! 

It’s a little under a year ago since that historic vote for the UK to leave the European Union. And as the negotiations get underway, it’s a time of change.  We find ourselves in challenging and uncertain times.

For some, this feels liberating and exciting.  At last, it’s possible to imagine the end of an unhealthy relationship and look forward to starting over.

Then again for others, nothing could further from the truth.  A security blanket has been pulled from under their feet.  And what was familiar for such a long time, together with their sense identity and belonging are now all at risk.

And there it is; difference.

A different point of view, a different way of seeing the world and a difference in how people are affected by events happening around them. Read more

Gold "THANK YOU" balloon letters hanging on the wall =How Showing Your Partner Appreciation Can Help Improve Your Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling

How Showing Your Partner Appreciation Can Help Improve Your Relationship

Gold "THANK YOU" balloon letters hanging on the wall = How Showing Your Partner Appreciation Can Help Improve Your Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling

 

Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.  Eckhart Tolle

What was the first thought you had about your partner this morning?  For instance, was it

I so feel happy?

Wow, I can’t’ wait to spend the rest of the day with him?

I feel safe and secure in this relationship?

On the other hand, was it annoyance with the snoring, fed up because they haven’t brought you your morning cup of tea…again, cross about his messy pile of clothes on the floor or perhaps irritable following an argument the night before? Read more