More or less, every relationship goes through a stage of uncertainty, when the mind gets stuck in a loop, circling the same questions endlessly. Read more
All relationships change; it’s simply part of being human and being in a relationship.
But people do not always immediately notice or acknowledge when that change happens. Somehow, it just seems to creep up and catch the unprepared couple by surprise. Read more
Hitting a turning point in your relationship can feel complicated, upsetting, and unsettling.
When you are thinking about whether to stay, whether to consider divorce, or whether to set new boundaries or recommit, your thoughts and feelings don’t always align. Read more
When you find yourself ambivalent and unsure about staying in your marriage, the experience is often a private one and internal. Few people know how you feel; it may not be something you have put into words. Yet it shapes how you move through your daily life with your partner. Read more
It’s easy to underestimate how much alcohol and problem drinking can affect our lives, especially when you’re juggling work, children, ageing parents and, on top of that, the stress and unhappiness of an unsatisfying relationship. Read more
Our values play a key role in relationships, especially in marriage, and become obvious when they feel out of sync. Differing values can cause confusion and emotional distance, leaving you unsure about whether to stay, leave, or continue. Gaining clarity is essential. Read more
I remember returning from a holiday in the sun years ago. When I got home and opened my suitcase, to my shock and horror, I discovered that I’d brought back an unexpected guest—a live cockroach. My head nearly hit the ceiling. I had no idea that I had brought this little creature back with me. I wish I hadn’t! Read more
‘I just don’t feel like my authentic self in this relationship.’
When a long-term relationship feels like it is on the brink of ending, many women often express that they no longer recognise themselves.
If I were to ask you who your true self is, could you answer? Read more
Impatience rarely introduces itself as fear or anxiety.
But often that’s exactly what it is.
Instead, impatience in relationships masquerades as urgency —a pressing need to resolve, fix, or move forward.
This is particularly true when we are trying to figure out whether to stay or leave.
One of nature’s rules is change.
As we head into summer, it’s clear: the days are longer, the light is brighter, and nature is in full bloom before it begins to shift again.
Relationships are no different. They change. They evolve.
Over time, couples go through many transitions, and with each one, something familiar gives way, making space for something new to emerge. Read more