We Have Different Values: Should I Stay Or Go?

in Should I Stay Or Leave?, Understanding Relationship Patterns/by Sandra Harewood

Our values play a key role in relationships, especially in marriage, and become obvious when they feel out of sync. Differing values can cause confusion and emotional distance, leaving you unsure about whether to stay, leave, or continue. Gaining clarity is essential. Read more

woman contemplating her relationship in the woods - Sandra Harewood

How to Be Your Authentic Self in a Relationship That Feels Like It’s Fading

in Self-Awareness, Should I Stay Or Leave?/by Sandra Harewood

‘I just don’t feel like my authentic self in this relationship.’

When a long-term relationship feels like it is on the brink of ending, many women often express that they no longer recognise themselves.

If I were to ask you who your true self is, could you answer? Read more

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