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Box of Coloured Eggs With Painted Faces - Verbal Abuse: When The Joke Just Isn't Funny - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Verbal Abuse: When The Joke Just Isn’t Funny

 

Many people assume that verbal abuse is just about swearing.  And some go one step further by thinking that swearing is only abusive if it’s attached to name-calling. If they didn’t call you an #@$%ing [insert], then they haven’t been abusive. Read more

Black Woman With Afro Smiling - The Power of Owning Your Suppressed Anger: Reclaiming The Goddess

The Power of Owning Your Suppressed Anger: Reclaiming The Goddess

 

In my earlier post, The Honest Truth About Your Partner’s Anger Issues, I talked about how to tell the difference between abusive anger and healthy anger.  If you haven’t read that make sure you do because it will help you understand that there is such a thing as healthy, honest anger which deepens intimacy in loving relationships. Read more

Frightened woman with her arm outstretched with the word stop written on her hand. The Honest Truth About Your Partner's Anger Issues. Sandra Harewood Counselling

The Honest Truth About Your Partner’s Anger Issues

 

What we have called anger may be abuse – David Richo

You can usually tell when someone is angry. It’s visceral. A raised voice, trembling, fidgeting, fast speech, heavy breathing, the furrowed brow, the clenched hand or maybe flared nostrils. But equally, it can be the opposite. Silence or sudden disappearance.

Often couples come to counselling naming a problem with anger in the relationship, anticipating that better communication and anger management skills would help solve the problem of endless conflict.

The problem is, however, that abuse and anger look similar. Read more

Pile Of Lemons On A Blue Plate -The Surprising Ways You Hide Your Anger- Sandra Harewood Counselling

The Surprising Ways You Hide Your Anger

I don’t think anyone likes to be angry.

I’d hazard a guess and say that most people are scared of anger, whether it’s being angry or facing someone else’s angry emotions and actions.  They just don’t like it.  One reason is that anger makes you feel vulnerable.  At other times it evokes feelings of guilt and shame impacting your sense of self and self-esteem.

And sometimes anger can feel like a dangerous thing.  That’s because sometimes how it’s expressed can be.   Read more