Black Woman Holding Her Head In Her Hands -What A Blue Fish Tells You About Your Anxiety - Sandra Harewood Counselling

How To Tell If Your Relationship Is Causing Your Anxiety

If the story of your relationship (maybe it feels more like a drama) is punctuated with narcissistic behaviours sadly, anxiety will likely also play a part.

Yellow Caution Tape - 9 Warning Signs of Narcissism In Your Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling

9 Warning Signs of Narcissism In Your Relationship

When the need for self-confirmation becomes excessive, then you enter the realm of potentially unhealthy or pathological narcissism.

Butterfly on a woman's finger - Scared of Being Vulnerable? Here's the Truth-Sandra-Harewood-Counselling

Scared of Being Vulnerable? Here’s the Truth

Vulnerability does make you more susceptible to hurt, heartbreak and disappointment, there’s no getting around that.  But when you shut down the possibility of being vulnerable, you can’t experience the joy and pleasure of life or be our authentic self because we shut down those things too.  Everything gets shut down.

A sad man sitting against a wall - The Critical Voice of Toxic Shame And How To Silence It- Sandra Harewood Counselling

The Critical Voice of Toxic Shame And How To Silence It

I really admire the work of Brené Brown.  If you’re not familiar with Brené, as well as being one of the world’s leading researchers on the subjects of shame and vulnerability, she is a wonderfully compelling storyteller. Brené Brown talks about difficult topics in a very soulful, humorous and graceful way.

Doormat With Oh Shit Not You Again In Words - Why It's Hard To Stop Being A People Pleaser And Say No - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Why It’s Hard To Stop Being A People Pleaser And Say No

It’s painful when you find yourself in a relationship continually giving more than you receive. And yet at the same time, it’s hard to stop being a people pleaser.  In fact, it’s a role that you’ve become all too used to.

And really, why would you want to do that, even to the point of being unhappy, overstressed, chronically resentful, and physically and emotionally ill?

Young woman looking through the train window with a serious mood - Echo's Story - How Living With Narcissism Affects You - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Echo’s Story – How Living With Narcissism Affects You

In my previous blog post, I wrote about the story of Narcissus and Echo to give you clues as to whether you are living with someone with a narcissistic personality.  If you didn’t read that click here to check it out.  That post was about understanding the modern day Narcissus.

Now it’s Echo’s turn.