2019 didn’t start the way I planned. It was certainly difficult to see any colour other than grey. Gratitude doesn’t seem to fit with pain, suffering and fear. When you’re struggling and survival mode, it doesn’t feel as if there’s space to look beyond what’s necessary to keep you going. Life isn’t easy sometimes, and in those moments it feels as if it’s working against you, not for you. The feeling is one of resentment, not gratitude.
It’s always nice to receive a gift, especially when it’s a surprise. A well-chosen gift can let you know that you have been deeply heard and profoundly understood.
In my previous blog post, I wrote about How To Tell If Your Relationship Is Causing You Anxiety. Now let’s address your anxiety symptoms.
Anxiety is common. In 2013 there were 8.2 million cases of anxiety in the UK. So if you’re experiencing anxiety symptoms, you are not alone.
If the story of your relationship (maybe it feels more like a drama) is punctuated with narcissistic behaviours sadly, anxiety will likely also play a part.
When the need for self-confirmation becomes excessive, then you enter the realm of potentially unhealthy or pathological narcissism.
Vulnerability does make you more susceptible to hurt, heartbreak and disappointment, there’s no getting around that. But when you shut down the possibility of being vulnerable, you can’t experience the joy and pleasure of life or be our authentic self because we shut down those things too. Everything gets shut down.