Vulnerability does make you more susceptible to hurt, heartbreak and disappointment, there’s no getting around that. But when you shut down the possibility of being vulnerable, you can’t experience the joy and pleasure of life or be our authentic self because we shut down those things too. Everything gets shut down.
I really admire the work of Brené Brown. If you’re not familiar with Brené, as well as being one of the world’s leading researchers on the subjects of shame and vulnerability, she is a wonderfully compelling storyteller. Brené Brown talks about difficult topics in a very soulful, humorous and graceful way.
It’s painful when you find yourself in a relationship continually giving more than you receive. And yet at the same time, it’s hard to stop being a people pleaser. In fact, it’s a role that you’ve become all too used to.
And really, why would you want to do that, even to the point of being unhappy, overstressed, chronically resentful, and physically and emotionally ill?
In my previous blog post, I wrote about the story of Narcissus and Echo to give you clues as to whether you are living with someone with a narcissistic personality. If you didn’t read that click here to check it out. That post was about understanding the modern day Narcissus.
Now it’s Echo’s turn.
If you’re in a relationship and notice that you have lost your voice, your spirit, feel overlooked, lonely, and that your needs are not important, this classic story might feel painfully familiar.
There are only a couple more days until Valentine’s Day.
So to get into the spirit of the day, I’m sharing thoughts and sayings about love. These are from people who I think you’ll find have something interesting to say about this thing called love.
If you’ve been thinking about having counselling but haven’t booked a session yet, what’s getting in your way?
Making the decision to start is a hard one. People usually think about beginning counselling when they’re hurt or struggling with painful feelings. The thought of sharing those feelings with a stranger can feel scary. Before you know it, the days and weeks have passed, you’re feeling a little better and besides you’re too busy now anyway.
Welcome to the New Year and a new chapter in your life!
What are you hoping for in 2018 that would be your opening line?
This time of year can feel full on and hectic. There seems to be a never-ending list of demands to try and meet the needs of other people. It can feel too much.
And that’s not to mention the shopping, planning, cooking, entertaining, wrapping, cards, family and potential worries about money.
I don’t think anyone likes to be angry.
I’d hazard a guess and say that most people are scared of anger, whether it’s being angry or facing someone else’s angry emotions and actions. They just don’t like it. One reason is that anger makes you feel vulnerable. At other times it evokes feelings of guilt and shame impacting your sense of self and self-esteem.
And anger can feel like a dangerous thing. That’s because it can be.
Christmas isn’t fun for everyone.
There are many reasons why you might not be looking forward to it.
Last time I wrote about 7 Ways Why Mindfulness Can Make You A Better Lover. If you missed part one of the series of click here to read that now.
Mindfulness is a wonderful meditation practice which helps integrate your mind, body and soul. What you cultivate with mindfulness is ‘presence’. You become aware of what is happening as it is happening. And what’s amazing about that, is your brain and body become more connected with other peoples.