Home isn’t always a safe place.
And even if you do feel okay, maybe home it isn’t always a calm, peaceful place.
While I aim to live in the present and express gratitude for each day, I’m kind of glad we’ve got to the end of January! This time of year I can find challenging. And I am not alone. We are leaving behind one of the most stressful times of the year.
What’s your favourite story? Christmas has long gone, but I have to confess that I think that I’d watched five different versions of Charles Dickens A Christmas Carol over the Christmas holidays!
Have you ever wondered why your partner always seems to want to escape when you have an argument? Or perhaps why you always seem to be the one trying to get them to stay in the room and make things better.
Many people assume that verbal abuse is just about swearing. And some go one step further by thinking that swearing is only abusive if it’s attached to name-calling. If they didn’t call you an #@$%ing [insert], then they haven’t been abusive.
Ever found yourself giving in and putting the needs of someone else first or second-guessing yourself? Can you relate? Then you know why setting boundaries feels so hard.
Does therapy work? Absolutely. Yes, it does
But you would expect me to say that that, wouldn’t you! What therapist would say otherwise?
In a healthy relationship, you would with your partner, be able to express your feelings openly. You would say what bothers you about what is going on or what happened.
When Sally Challen walked free from the High Court in London last Friday, many saw this as a landmark decision for how the legal system treats domestic abuse. European countries, including England and Wales, are taking the lead on redefining domestic abuse.
You can usually tell when someone is angry. It’s visceral. A raised voice, trembling, fidgeting, fast speech, heavy breathing, the furrowed brow, the clenched hand or maybe flared nostrils. But equally, it can be the opposite. Silence or sudden disappearance.
Gaslighting is a sophisticated, subtle form of emotional manipulation which is so effective that you accept whatever the gaslighter presents as the truth.
When in your relationship do you feel cared for?
Sometimes we feel embarrassed about our wish to be cared for. But Rick Hanson PhD says that wanting to be cared for is natural, and deeply rooted in evolution. Care is a symbol of love. And love, generally speaking, has been the primary driver of the development of the human brain over millions of years. Care is crucial to survival.