How To Protect Yourself When Self-Isolating With A Controlling Partner
/in Coercive Control, Emotional Abuse /by Sandra HarewoodHome isn’t always a safe place.
And even if you do feel okay, maybe home it isn’t always a calm, peaceful place.
What Your Physical Symptoms Can Teach You About Hidden Stress
/in Relationship Advice /by Sandra HarewoodWhile I aim to live in the present and express gratitude for each day, I’m kind of glad we’ve got to the end of January! This time of year I can find challenging. And I am not alone. We are leaving behind one of the most stressful times of the year.
Why Telling Your Story Means You Take Charge Of Your Life
/in Counselling /by Sandra HarewoodWhat’s your favourite story? Christmas has long gone, but I have to confess that I think that I’d watched five different versions of Charles Dickens A Christmas Carol over the Christmas holidays!
Why Attachment Styles Matter To Your Relationship
/in Couple Communication, Relationship Advice /by Sandra HarewoodHave you ever wondered why your partner always seems to want to escape when you have an argument? Or perhaps why you always seem to be the one trying to get them to stay in the room and make things better.
Verbal Abuse: When The Joke Just Isn’t Funny
/in Emotional Abuse, Relationship Advice /by Sandra HarewoodMany people assume that verbal abuse is just about swearing. And some go one step further by thinking that swearing is only abusive if it’s attached to name-calling. If they didn’t call you an #@$%ing [insert], then they haven’t been abusive.
The B* Word – Boundaries. Why It’s Hard To Stop Saying Yes When You Feel No
/in Relationship Advice /by Sandra HarewoodEver found yourself giving in and putting the needs of someone else first or second-guessing yourself? Can you relate? Then you know why setting boundaries feels so hard.
Does Therapy Work? Yes It Does, And Here’s The Evidence
/in Counselling /by Sandra HarewoodDoes therapy work? Absolutely. Yes, it does
But you would expect me to say that that, wouldn’t you! What therapist would say otherwise?
The Power of Owning Your Suppressed Anger: Reclaiming The Goddess
/in Emotional Abuse /by Sandra HarewoodIn a healthy relationship, you would with your partner, be able to express your feelings openly. You would say what bothers you about what is going on or what happened.
Coercive Control: 7 Reasons Why Women Don’t Leave
/in Coercive Control, Emotional Abuse /by Sandra HarewoodWhen Sally Challen walked free from the High Court in London last Friday, many saw this as a landmark decision for how the legal system treats domestic abuse. European countries, including England and Wales, are taking the lead on redefining domestic abuse.
The Honest Truth About Your Partner’s Anger Issues
/in Emotional Abuse, Relationship Advice /by Sandra HarewoodYou can usually tell when someone is angry. It’s visceral. A raised voice, trembling, fidgeting, fast speech, heavy breathing, the furrowed brow, the clenched hand or maybe flared nostrils. But equally, it can be the opposite. Silence or sudden disappearance.
Gaslighting 101: What Is Gaslighting And What You Need To Do
/in Emotional Abuse /by Sandra HarewoodGaslighting is a sophisticated, subtle form of emotional manipulation which is so effective that you accept whatever the gaslighter presents as the truth.
5 Subtle Signs Of A Controlling Relationship That Look Like Care
/in Emotional Abuse, Relationship Advice /by Sandra HarewoodWhen in your relationship do you feel cared for?
Sometimes we feel embarrassed about our wish to be cared for. But Rick Hanson PhD says that wanting to be cared for is natural, and deeply rooted in evolution. Care is a symbol of love. And love, generally speaking, has been the primary driver of the development of the human brain over millions of years. Care is crucial to survival.