Gaslighting is a sophisticated, subtle form of emotional manipulation which is so effective that you accept whatever the gaslighter presents as the truth.
When in your relationship do you feel cared for?
Sometimes we feel embarrassed about our wish to be cared for. But Rick Hanson PhD says that wanting to be cared for is natural, and deeply rooted in evolution. Care is a symbol of love. And love, generally speaking, has been the primary driver of the development of the human brain over millions of years. Care is crucial to survival.
Whether it’s wanting them to be more emotionally responsive, more attentive, reliable and financially responsible or just that they wouldn’t squeeze the toothpaste from the middle of the tube, it seems that we can spend years trying to get our significant other to be different.
2019 didn’t start the way I planned. It was certainly difficult to see any colour other than grey. Gratitude doesn’t seem to fit with pain, suffering and fear. When you’re struggling and survival mode, it doesn’t feel as if there’s space to look beyond what’s necessary to keep you going. Life isn’t easy sometimes, and in those moments it feels as if it’s working against you, not for you. The feeling is one of resentment, not gratitude.
It’s always nice to receive a gift, especially when it’s a surprise. A well-chosen gift can let you know that you have been deeply heard and profoundly understood.
In my previous blog post, I wrote about How To Tell If Your Relationship Is Causing You Anxiety. Now let’s address your anxiety symptoms.
Anxiety is common. In 2013 there were 8.2 million cases of anxiety in the UK. So if you’re experiencing anxiety symptoms, you are not alone.