shadows of a couple man and woman on a beach - Shadow Work: How To Strengthen Your Relationship With Yourself And Your Partner - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Shadow Work: How To Strengthen Your Relationship With Yourself And Your Partner

Today I’m going to explore the Jungian archetype of the Shadow, everything we can’t see in ourselves, and the importance of shadow work in relationships. 

Two round mirrors side by side - Why You Might Think The Worst About Your Partner and What To Do About It - Sandra Harewood

Why You Might Think The Worst About Your Partner And What To Do Next

Projection and projective identification play a significant role in our relationships and marital breakdown, whether we know it or not. It’s not just about narcissists.

Eye glasses with paper eyes as lenses - The 3 Unconscious Ways You Are Blocking Intimacy - Sandra Harewood

The 3 Unconscious Ways You Are Blocking Intimacy

The unconscious mind is a potent force.  Research shows us that we are pretty much unconscious most of the time. When we do not give the unconscious a place at the table, we are missing out on perhaps what is our most powerful ally in making change and creating a stable, loving relationship.

Door Opening To Empty Chair - 21 Painful Losses You Might Not Expect In Divorce - Sandra Harewood Counselling

21 Painful Losses You Might Not Expect In Divorce

Divorce isn’t always painful.  But what is always part of a divorce or separation is loss.  Divorce is all about loss and there’s no avoiding it.

Sad Woman and Concerned Man - How To Tell If Your Are At Risk Of Having An Emotional Affair

How To Tell If Your Are At Risk Of Having An Emotional Affair

Emotional affairs are nuanced.  Couples can get into endless debates when they feel uncomfortable about their partner’s close friendship with someone they fear could become a romantic partner. Here’s how to spot what is going on.

Old Fashioned Typewriter on wooden desk - 8 Myths About Marriage You Need To Break To Have A Mature Relationship - Sandra Harewood

8 Myths About Marriage You Must Break To Have A Mature Relationship

Let’s have a chat about common myths around marriage. Stories about relationships date back to time immemorial

Broken Heart Shaped Biscuit - Should I Stay Married? - Sandra Harewood

Should I Stay Married?

I get why so many women carry doubts alone, wondering should I stay married?
I don’t know about you, but I grew up with the golden household rule ‘don’t chat yuh buziness!’
It’s a story I carried for a long time, keeping struggles and challenges to myself, and sometimes I still do

Woman Holding Passport In Her Hands - Understanding Why Some Decisions Are Easier to Make - Sandra Harewood Counselling

The Truth About Deciding To Stay Or Leave

We all have insecurities and doubts about ourselves and the consequences of our decisions in our lives, particularly when deciding to stay or leave a marriage or long term committed relationship. Even the most upbeat people who stand tall and strong will have a wobble from time to time. 

Stack Of Books For Journalling Habit - 5 Habits That Keep Your Marriage Stuck - Sandra Harewood

5 Habits That Keep Your Marriage Stuck

What kind of relationship are you co-creating? A relationship is co-created by the couple and has a life of its own.    
When working with couples in couples therapy, I consider the relationship the third person sitting in the room and on the chair with the couple.  Think about that for a minute.

Mixed Race Heterosexual Couple Sitting On A Sofa looking Sad - Should I Stay or Should I Go- Quiz - Sandra Harewood

Should I Stay or Should I Go

Deciding on marriage or long term committed partnership is hugely challenging to make. Divorce or separation means disentangling many different strands of your life, finances, homes and sometimes businesses.

Woman Hold A Bunch of Pink Roses As A Self-Care Treat - New Year Self Care - Sandra Harewood Counselling

3 Tips To Help You Start Looking After You

If you’re anything like me, time is precious.

Many of us are constantly on the go with day-to-day life, work, children, pets, and families or friends. Or you may be struggling with a lack of motivation or energy because your get up and go has got up and, well, vanished.

We’ve just navigated the New Year when you might have been gifted an opportunity to slow down after the festivities, taking time to focus on yourself.  ‘What’s that?’ I hear you say.

Read closely—one word; self-care. 

Wrapped Christmas Gifts - The Surprising Reason Our Relationships Are a Gift - Sandra Harewood Counselling

The Surprising Reason Our Relationships Are A Gift

Relationships come in many forms. But have you ever considered that your relationships are a gift in some way or another?