In a healthy relationship, you would with your partner, be able to express your feelings openly. You would say what bothers you about what is going on or what happened.
When Sally Challen walked free from the High Court in London last Friday, many saw this as a landmark decision for how the legal system treats domestic abuse. European countries, including England and Wales, are taking the lead on redefining domestic abuse.
You can usually tell when someone is angry. It’s visceral. A raised voice, trembling, fidgeting, fast speech, heavy breathing, the furrowed brow, the clenched hand or maybe flared nostrils. But equally, it can be the opposite. Silence or sudden disappearance.
Gaslighting is a sophisticated, subtle form of emotional manipulation which is so effective that you accept whatever the gaslighter presents as the truth.
When in your relationship do you feel cared for?
Sometimes we feel embarrassed about our wish to be cared for. But Rick Hanson PhD says that wanting to be cared for is natural, and deeply rooted in evolution. Care is a symbol of love. And love, generally speaking, has been the primary driver of the development of the human brain over millions of years. Care is crucial to survival.
Whether it’s wanting them to be more emotionally responsive, more attentive, reliable and financially responsible or just that they wouldn’t squeeze the toothpaste from the middle of the tube, it seems that we can spend years trying to get our significant other to be different.