Soul and Relationship

When we care for the soul, we find meaning in the experiences that shape us, especially in our relationships. It’s where the challenges of marriage can also become a source of healing. Through practices like patience, forgiveness, kindness, and love, we grow into deeper connection, even when our relationship feels uncertain or contradictory.

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Why Telling Your Story Means You Take Charge Of Your Life

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What’s your favourite story?

Christmas has long gone, but I have to confess that I think that I’d watched five different versions of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol over the Christmas holidays!  There is something hopeful in the story, that somehow Scrooge this self-indulgent, controlling, some might say narcissistic man changes.  We see a softer, more compassionate, and generous man appreciating the value of family and relationship.

And we can wonder, when not in the land of fairytales and myth does change happen so quickly? Read more

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The Power of Owning Your Suppressed Anger: Reclaiming The Goddess

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In my earlier post, The Honest Truth About Your Partner’s Anger Issues, I talked about how to tell the difference between abusive anger and healthy anger.  If you haven’t read that, make sure you do because it will help you understand that there is such a thing as healthy, honest anger, which deepens intimacy in loving relationships. Read more

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31 Journal Prompts For When Gratitude Is Hard

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Gratitude doesn’t change the scenery. It merely washes clean the glass you look through so you can clearly see the colours. Richelle E. Goodrich

2019 didn’t start the way I planned.  It was certainly difficult to see any colour other than grey.

Gratitude doesn’t seem to fit with pain, suffering and fear. Read more

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5 Great Gifts To Give Yourself This Christmas

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It’s always nice to receive a gift, especially when it’s a surprise.

A well-chosen gift can let you know you have been genuinely heard and profoundly understood. A passing remark picked up on, or a glance in a shop window noticed. Perhaps the giver has been generous with their time and energy, letting you know how much you are cared for.

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Scared of Being Vulnerable? Here’s the Truth

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Right now, as I struggle to find what I want to be the ‘right’ words for this blog post, I’m feeling pretty vulnerable.  That’s because there’s a part of me that knows if I don’t find the right words and write the perfect post, I will hear familiar voices in my head.

“Is that correct grammar?  I’m not sure. Yeah, it is, it’s fine. Uhm, maybe I should find a copywriter.  But, what will they think?”

“Okay Sandra, don’t publish it.  Don’t let anyone see it.  Don’t let anyone see you!”

This is my encounter with vulnerability, feeling shy, hesitant and exposed. Read more

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3 Quotes For The New Year To Achieve The 2018 You Want

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Welcome to the New Year and a new chapter in your life!

What are you hoping for in 2018 that would be your opening line?

I know for some that ‘hope’ is a tricky word as it challenges you to permit yourself to have desires, wild dreams and wishes.  And much more than that, to know that the possibilities you would love to experience in life can manifest.  You know you want something to happen, but you don’t claim the possibility that it will.

So if hope is challenging for you, and even if it isn’t, here are three great inspirational quotes for the New Year to connect you with what is within your gift to make possible. They’ll get you thinking about what you can take control of in your life, to create an experience which fully harnesses’ all of you in 2018.  Read more

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One Great Way To Stay Relaxed At Christmas

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This time of year can feel full-on and hectic. There seems to be a never-ending list of demands to meet other people’s needs. It can feel too much.

And that’s not to mention the shopping, planning, cooking, entertaining, wrapping, cards, family and potential worries about money.  Read more

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How To Survive Christmas And Reduce Your Christmas Anxiety

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Christmas isn’t fun for everyone. If you’re looking to reduce Christmas anxiety, there are ways to approach this time of year with greater steadiness and care.

There are many reasons why you might not be looking forward to it. For many people, Christmas brings not comfort, but complexity.

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7 Easy Ways To Be Mindful Daily Without Meditating

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Last time I wrote about 7 Ways Why Mindfulness Can Make You A Better Lover.  If you missed part one of the series of click here to read that now.

Mindfulness is a wonderful meditation practice which helps integrate your mind, body and soul. What you cultivate with mindfulness is  ‘presence’.  You become aware of what is happening as it is happening.  And what’s amazing about that, is your brain and body become more connected with other peoples.

We live in a relational world, so being mindful is an indispensable tool when looking to develop deeper, loving connections with your partner, friends and loved ones. Read more

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National Quiet Day – What Silence Can Teach You About Intimacy

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Shh.  It’s National Quiet Day.

It’s getting more and more difficult to create a space for solitude and silence.  The noise it seems is an inevitable part of our day. Read more