Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you. Robin Sharma
If you’ve been thinking about having counselling but haven’t booked a session yet, what’s getting in your way?
Making the decision to start is a hard one. People usually think about beginning counselling when they’re hurt or struggling with painful feelings. The thought of sharing those feelings with a stranger can feel scary. Before you know it, the days and weeks have passed, you’re feeling a little better and besides you’re too busy now anyway.
If this sounds like you, please know that you are not alone. One of the most challenging and courageous things you can do is to start counselling.
But apart from being busy, money is the other the top reason that people give for putting counselling off or for that matter, other things that would enrich their lives.
So while it’s true that you may not have a lot of extra money lying around, it’s important to realise that often, that’s not the full story. It’s not because we really can’t afford counselling or couldn’t find time for it, but instead, it’s because we fail to recognise the real value in investing in ourselves.
I Can’t Afford Counselling
We spend thousands of pounds each year trying to boost our self-esteem, seeking external validation, numbing painful feelings and pleasure seeking.
Things you might spend your spare money on:
- Expensive TV’s and gadgets so that you are distracted from yourself by scrolling the internet for endless hours or watching back to back box sets.
- If you smoke, the average amount spent on cigarettes each week is £35.
- Many of us use alcohol to relax and reduce stress. In a typical night out you could spend over £40 on drinks.
- That yoga centre membership that cost £120 per month or other gym memberships that you pay for and don’t use.
- Gambling habits on which you spend unknown amounts.
- Expensive or regular holidays which allow you to escape
- Make-up because going anywhere without it makes you feel inadequate.
Investing In Distractions
The costs all add up.
But it seems something’s not working. Depression is on the rise. Last year doctors prescribed more antidepressants than ever before making the UK one of the highest users of these drugs in Western Europe. And when you’re depressed you might find yourself drinking more, binge eating or having that extra cigarette to make the pain go away.
Yes, of course, you want some fun in your life and why wouldn’t you want to feel better. The fact that you’re buying makeup, going on holiday or buying a new wardrobe might feel as if you are choosing to invest in yourself.
However, at the same time your suffering, symptoms, and what you do to soothe them, may just be letting you know that a part of you needs attention.
How Much Does It Cost To Ignore The Call Of The Soul?
The soul calls your attention toward your divine wholeness in mysterious ways: symptoms, illness, life-crises, dreams, coincidences, accidents, repeated experiences, or even peak experiences.
The more you ignore the call to invest in yourself, the louder the knocking becomes.
Perhaps there’s a deepening of the depression which masks the hurt and anger of the loss and abandonment experienced in your life. Or the anxiety becomes acuter as your inner critic, reminding you of the voice of a narcissistic parent, becomes louder.
Maybe your relationship breaks down because you have a deep fear of rejection that means you cannot bear to be intimate.
Invest in Yourself
So what’s the call?
In my experience, at its core, it is a call to find a place of self-value, self-trust and self-love. To do that, you might have to unpick a lot of beliefs created through your life. And equally important, feel both the rage and loss that goes with this.
It’s a scary journey because it challenges who you are in the world. Ultimately, however, it’s a journey that leads to a place of greater self-acceptance.
Investing in yourself is the best investment you’ll ever make. Your soul is waiting for you.
Over To You
How do you invest in yourself? Are you investing money in distractions that could be invested in your wellbeing? If you want to explore new possibilities in your life get in touch and book your first counselling appointment.
Or call me today on 07535 864836.
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© Sandra Harewood
Soul Centred couples counsellor Sandra Harewood specialises in working with couples and single women with childhood wounding that impacts their adult relationships. Sandra provides a soulful space for her clients to explore and discover creative solutions to their difficulties and create great relationships.
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