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Broken Heart Shaped Biscuit - Should I Stay Married? - Sandra Harewood

Should I Stay Married?

I get why so many women carry marital doubts alone, wondering should I stay married?

I don’t know about you, but I grew up with the golden household rule ‘don’t chat yuh buziness!’ Read more

Woman Holding Passport In Her Hands - Understanding Why Some Decisions Are Easier to Make - Sandra Harewood Counselling

The Truth About Deciding To Stay Or Leave

We all have insecurities and doubts about ourselves and the consequences of our decisions in our lives, particularly when deciding to stay or leave a marriage or long term committed relationship.

Even the most upbeat people who stand tall and strong will have a wobble from time to time.  Read more

Understanding Hope in Your Relationship

Understanding Hope in Your Relationship

Before you can understand hope in your relationship we have to ask.  What does hope mean to you?

The dictionary definition of hope is: “A feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen. A feeling of trust.”

Man And Woman Laying Down Head To Head Holding Hands - Why Attachment Styles Matter to Your Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Why Attachment Styles Matter To Your Relationship

Have you ever wondered why your partner always seems to want to escape when you argue? 

Or perhaps why you always seem to be the one trying to get them to stay in the room and make things better.

It might all be down to attachment styles. Read more

Young woman looking through the train window with a serious mood - Echo's Story - How Living With Narcissism Affects You - Sandra Harewood Counselling

Echo’s Story – How Living With Narcissism Affects You

 

In my previous blog post, I wrote about the story of Narcissus and Echo to give you clues as to whether you are living with someone with a narcissistic personality.  If you didn’t read it click here to check it out.

That post was about understanding the modern day Narcissus.  Now it’s Echo’s turn and how living with narcissism affects you. Read more

A Woman Meditating Outdoors -7 Ways Mindfulness Can Make You A Better Lover Sandra Harewood Counselling

7 Ways Mindfulness Can Make You A Better Lover

 

Hard to imagine that sitting quietly and focusing on the breath for as little as 20 minutes a day can improve your love life.

But hear me out, practising mindfulness can help make you a better lover and life partner. Read more

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A Little Known Fact That Could Affect Your Relationship

 

We all have a past. It’s part of the unique story that makes you who you are. 

Being overly preoccupied with the past perhaps isn’t helpful; but there are undoubtedly important things from your history which, when worked through, can help you fully experience the present and look forward to enjoying a future filled with rewarding relationships. Read more

Scissors between a man and woman paper doll - What An Affair Can Tell You About Loss

What An Affair Can Tell You About Loss

An affair leaves a trail of pain, hurt and guilt in its wake.  There’s no escaping that.

Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal.  Whether you stay together or not, an affair marks an ‘ending’ to the relationship.  All of a sudden, the spell of the romantic phase is well and truly broken.

That’s because betrayal threatens your emotional safety.  As a result, it shakes any sense of a secure attachment.  The anger and hurt emotionally split you apart.

Inevitably, things won’t be the same again. How you relate to each other, communicate, how you trust each other and how intimate you are all change.  Read more

Couple Throwing Colored Holi Powder at Each Other For Fun - 24 Ways To Be Playful With Your Partner - Sandra Harewood Counselling

24 Simple Ways To Be Playful With Your Partner – Part 2

 

Last time I wrote about How Playfulness Can Help Improve Your Relationship. If you missed part one of the series of click here to read that now.

Two of the main reasons why couples in long-term relationships separate are boredom and lack of intimacy.  So it follows that play, enjoyment and fun are vital to keeping a sense of connection between you and your partner.

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A Woman Blowing Bubbles - How Playfulness Can Help Improve Your Relationship - Sandra Harewood Counselling

How Playfulness Can Help Improve Your Relationship – Part 1

 

We’ve just had one of the hottest summer days here in the UK since 1979.  It brought back memories of childhood.  The chimes of the ice cream van, Fab ice lollies, getting soaking wet in the paddling pool at the local park and eating chicken on the beach with family.

Glorious summer; it’s a time for play! Read more